A strange coincidence prompted me to think about whether or not we should attribute meaning to the experience.  When I shared the story of our strange coincidence with friends, I received numerous letters on either side of a fence dividing those who believe there are no coincidences and those who see coincidence as nothing more than just that: a coincidence.  

When I wrote about diffuse large b-cell lymphoma, published a paper on the topic and then fell ill with the very same form of cancer one year later; we saw the same debate.  In both strange set of circumstances, I’ve noticed a similar pattern in how I interpret these events personally.  

I don’t like to think of the world as so black and white that when two dissimilar events occur at random with some corresponding theme, I dismiss it totally as some random inevitability.  The word coincidence, after-all, is not defined as two events that happen simultaneously without any connection – it is merely defined as two events happening that appear unrelated.  So, I take a little from both camps.  

When yesterday, my youngest child said something out of the blue relating to a house we had put an offer on months earlier and at the exact same time a message appeared in my inbox from the owner of that house offering it to us at our price, some believed this was a sign that we should buy that house.  We certainly like the house.  However, when I look back at a week spent rental-shopping and had just found a place I liked, I wondered whether this was not so much a sign that we should buy a house, but rather another diversion.  Maybe a different kind of sign – one that reminds us we are far from the place where we belong.  Is it possible the universe really does speak to us?

This brings me to “the Secret” – that series claiming we control the universe with our thoughts; the Law of Attraction.  Take away the magic of that statement and what we have is a series of choices that invariably lead us to a presumed outcome.  That’s not so difficult to digest.  It doesn’t even require a quantum physicist explaining it to me with incomplete experimental data.  

So what of coincidence?  Are they really as random a set of acts as some believe or do we have something to do with their “inevitability”?

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